FOMO Has Gone And It’s Making Us Happier

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As I was scrolling aimlessly through my phone last night, I suddenly realised I was no longer spending my time on social media looking at what people were up to. I no longer had the Fear Of Missing Out.

Because we’re all stuck at home.

And maybe the Wizard of Oz got it right:

I have a travel-related Instagram account and it used to be my ritual to watch my favourite Influencer’s stories each morning. They’d be in some gorgeous tropical place, sun-kissed skin, running into the ocean, cocktail in hand — and I’d be sat at home in my scruffs, counting down the months until my next trip. I mean that’s not going to make anyone feel particularly happy is it?

And so, instead of enjoying each day in the moment, I’d be thinking of my trip in three months time, planning out every last detail, and daydreaming about it until we got there. Then it would be over before I knew it, and I’d start the whole cycle again.

Time has stood still

But life is moving forward and we should embrace this time as we’ll never get it back. We are learning vital lessons of gratitude and patience. So much so, sometimes I don’t want things to go back to ‘how they were’ just yet.

There’s no pressure to be out and about all the time, and doing something ‘fun’. I’ve always looked forward to my ‘me time’ and now I’m getting more than I could possibly imagine and it’s amazing. I’m writing again. I’m reading books. My cats have been cuddled and kissed more than my husband. I’m smiling more.

So what can we learn from this?

Create your own Happiness

The main takeaway here is that we need to stop looking around us at what other people are doing, and shift the focus onto ourselves. Comparing our lives with others only takes away from the joy within our own lives.

Practice Gratitude

There are so many things to be thankful for each day — we just aren’t looking for them, or appreciating that they’re there.

Spend less time on social media

This one’s a biggie and something a lot of us struggle with but is what we see on social media the true reality anyway? It creates distraction, fuels procrastination, and used in the wrong way it can contribute to discontent. Less social media time should make us feel more self-assured and less stressed — which can only be a good thing.

Embrace JOMO

Let’s start appreciating the Joy Of Missing Out instead.

Learn to give into society demands and say no to the things that no longer serve us.

Relish the downtime long after this time has passed and use our time wisely. It might just be the best thing we’ve ever done.

Freelance writer, procrastinator, and lover of cats. Avid traveller pre-lockdown. Future best-selling novelist post-lockdown🤞 Find me at

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